SINGAPORE:

A woman took to social media to disclose a heart-wrenching account of her marriage, highlighting the disturbing disconnect between her husband’s respected public persona and his abusive behavior at home. The post, shared on the NUSWhispers Facebook page, has triggered widespread outrage and concern.

The husband, an NUS graduate with first-class honors in Civil Engineering, is viewed as a model citizen in his workplace. Lauded for treating colleagues to meals and portraying an image of kindness, his demeanor changes drastically within the confines of their home, where he allegedly reveals a controlling and manipulative side.

"I suffer from emotional, financial, and verbal abuse," she revealed. "He goes as far as to turn off our utilities when I oppose his demands." In a cruel manifestation of power, she stated, "He forces me to sleep on the floor, as he claims ownership of the bed and furniture." Even the basic comfort of dining is stripped away; she is compelled to eat on the floor due to his possessiveness over the dining arrangements.

In a particularly disheartening revelation, the woman described how her husband criticizes her in front of neighbors to paint her as the instigator of conflict. While he presents himself as generous outwardly, at home, he has refused to share financial responsibilities, leaving her to pay for groceries and bills.

Celebrations such as Christmas, Chinese New Year, or even her birthday have been systematically ignored, with her husband deeming them unnecessary. "He dictates every aspect of our lives," she lamented, echoing the isolation and suppression she feels.

Adding another layer to her distress, he has set unrealistically high standards for household cleanliness and punishes her with cold treatment when his expectations are not met. The emotional manipulation extends to threatening her elderly mother, with repeated threats that she might be unjustly blamed for their marital strife.

"When I try to seek help, he bombards my phone with messages, trying to regain control over my mind and emotions," she explained. "He has even threatened to flee the country to escape paying potential alimony, using his academic credentials as leverage."

In response to her emotional plea, many in the comments shared their shock and dismay, urging her to take measures to protect herself. Suggestions ranged from documenting evidence to reaching out to support organizations and considering leaving her husband for her safety.

One commenter implored, “You are capable of leaving. Remember, you deserve to live a fulfilling life, with or without children.” Others echoed the sentiment, stressing the importance of self-worth and seeking external assistance from trusted organizations like AWARE Singapore, dedicated to helping those experiencing domestic abuse.

While many showed solidarity, a few skeptics questioned the authenticity of her account, expressing doubts about its one-sided narrative.

For anyone faced with such dire situations, AWARE Singapore stands ready to assist. Their helpline, 1800 777 5555, is available from Monday to Friday, and they offer online chat services for those in unsafe environments.

> If you or someone you know is suffering from domestic violence, it’s paramount to reach out for help. Do not hesitate; you deserve a life free from fear and control!