Ben's Candid Interview

In a candid interview on TV CHOSUN's popular show "Now, I'm Alone," beloved singer Ben, renowned as the "OST Queen" for her captivating soundtracks in hit dramas like "Another Miss Oh," "Hotel Del Luna," and "Mr. Sunshine," shared her raw and inspiring journey through the tumultuous transition of motherhood and divorce.

Reflecting on Her Marriage

The episode aired on November 12, showcasing Ben's sweet moments with her daughter, Lia, following a challenging six months after her birth. Reflecting on her marriage, Ben revealed that she tied the knot at the tender age of 29, driven by the dream of early marriage and a shared belief that her husband was “the one.” However, the initial magic soon gave way to a cascade of challenges.

“The first year was like a fairytale,” she reminisced. “But as we faced one hurdle after another, conflicts arose, and I often felt taken for granted. It was a harsh reality check that left me questioning my love and effort in the relationship.”

A Deep Desire for Motherhood

Ben, who had always dreamed of having children, expressed her deep desire to become a mother. Even amidst the struggles with her partner, she went through extensive efforts to conceive, only to find that their relationship was strained even during this vulnerable time. "During our toughest moments, I let go of everything and we took a trip together—ironically, that’s when I found out I was pregnant with Lia."

The Decision to Divorce

Tragically, just six months after welcoming her baby girl into the world, Ben made the heart-wrenching decision to divorce. “It felt like Lia was my saving grace. Having a child made me realize that I had to prioritize happiness for both of us,” she said, revealing how she affectionately called Lia her “Angel” during her pregnancy.

Shifting Perspectives on Marriage

Ben candidly shared how her perspective on marriage had profoundly shifted after giving birth. “No one enters marriage expecting a divorce. I grew up with strong values against dishonesty, and when trust eroded in our relationship, I knew I had to make a difficult choice for my daughter’s future.”

Emphasis on Self-Love

She emphasized self-love and emotional stability as critical in her decision to part ways. “I realized that to truly care for Lia, I needed to be happy myself. I couldn't provide her with a healthy environment while stuck in an unhappy marriage,” she noted.

Struggles with Mental Health

The emotional weight of her struggles took a toll on Ben's mental health, leading her to experience deep depression. “I thought I was resilient after 14 years in the entertainment industry, but the pain felt unbearable. It was like being at rock bottom, where I lost my sense of self,” she confessed.

Finding Strength Through Motherhood

Yet, the light of her daughter gave her the strength to rise again. “Lia saved me in ways I can’t describe. It was time to take responsibility for both her happiness and mine,” Ben revealed. With supportive parents by her side, she embarked on a journey of healing and self-discovery.

A Journey of Healing and Positivity

Now, Ben radiates positivity, stating, “I’ve overcome so much, and I’m in a good place. I'm genuinely happy.” This transformation story is a powerful reminder of resilience and the importance of prioritizing mental well-being, even in the face of life’s most challenging transitions. Ben's journey resonates with many, proving that through love and determination, one can navigate the stormy seas of life toward a brighter horizon.