Breaking the Silence on Menopause

In a groundbreaking initiative, Asia's first menopause cafe, dubbed "Pause & Sip," has emerged as a new sanctuary for women seeking to share their experiences. Organized by the local menopause platform Surety, the cafe invites women to engage in open dialogues surrounding mental health and the often-taboo topic of menopause.

A Unique Gathering of Voices

When I arrived at Mortar & Pestle Cafe, I anticipated a typical medical discussion, replete with clinical advice. Instead, I stepped into a circle of twelve women—each with unique stories reflecting the profound impacts of menopause on their lives. From lost confidence and relationship strife to challenges like divorce, the emotions flowed freely.

Finding Connection in Shared Experiences

Led by Dr. Nav Uppal, a family physician, and psychologist Dr. Ronina Stevens, the session fostered a warm and welcoming atmosphere. As I nervously introduced myself, sharing my own menopause symptoms, I realized I wasn’t alone; this space buzzed with empathy and support.

A Safe Haven for Vulnerability

As the discussions progressed, it felt like a heartwarming reunion rather than a formal meeting. One woman expressed her frustration about her partner's lack of understanding, while another bravely recounted leaving her medical job due to debilitating brain fog. Each story was a testament to the struggles faced.

Inspired by Real-Life Challenges

Valery Tan, co-founder of Surety, explained that these cafes were born from the shared narratives of women who felt isolated and unheard. She highlighted how these conversations extend beyond mere chit-chat, delving into emotional terrains of career shifts, sexual health, and family dynamics.

Empowering Women to Speak Up

Dawn Lum, a participant who recently returned to Singapore from Ireland, entered the session with no expectations. Yet, she felt compelled to share her journey through menopause—after experiencing symptoms for years, hormone therapy had given her life back. She noted how the silent struggles echoed around the room, a collective cry for help that signified a turning point.

Real Stories, Real Women

Choong Rui Cheng, 41, shared her profound memories of her mother’s struggles with heavy bleeding during menopause, now fueling her desire to be informed and prepared when her time arrives. As an aromatherapist, she aims to guide her clients through this phase of life.

A Commitment to Change

Over the course of two hours, tears mixed with laughter, and the women connected over experiences that were deeply personal. Far from the impersonal tales on social media, these were raw accounts from real women.

Moving Forward Together

Would I return to the menopause cafe? Absolutely. It’s not just a support group; it’s a movement encouraging women in Singapore to speak freely and loudly about menopause. This gathering not only acknowledges our collective struggles but also inspires a fresh narrative around this pivotal phase of life.