Carless Dating Sparks Outrage

SINGAPORE: A social media uproar has erupted following a Singaporean woman's controversial remarks targeting local men who do not own cars.

In a post on SGWhispers this past Sunday (October 27), she vented her frustrations towards men she encountered on dating apps, who, to her dismay, lacked the ability to drive her to their dates. Instead of picking her up, these men suggested alternatives such as public transportation or ordering a Grab, which she deemed unacceptable.

She didn't hold back, declaring, "If you’re too broke to own a car, please don’t bother dating us and focus on your work first." This statement struck a nerve with many who felt it was emblematic of an entitled mindset.

Public Reaction and Backlash

The post quickly went viral, provoking a wave of critical commentary from internet users who described her views as superficial and materialistic. One commenter sharply retorted, "If you think it’s easy to earn S$100K to buy a piece of paper just to drive you around, then you should lead by example or find a driver as a boyfriend."

Another user emphasized that car owners might not even need dating apps, quipping, "If you want to date a car owner, you should at least be on their level; focus on working to own one yourself first."

Rethinking Priorities in Relationships

The backlash continued with users sharing anecdotes about wealthy individuals, including high-ranking executives, who opt to use public transport despite their financial capacity to own luxury vehicles. One netizen challenged the woman's perspective, stating, “Being rich doesn’t mean you need to drive! Rich in character and heart is far more important than material possessions."

To shift focus from superficial traits, experts suggest that individuals looking for lasting relationships should prioritize emotional intelligence, humor, and supportiveness over material wealth. For instance, research from the Hanken School of Economics indicates that intelligent partners tend to achieve greater career stability while also being less likely to cheat.

Furthermore, understanding the importance of emotional intelligence can enhance relationship dynamics. During conflicts, it’s beneficial to have a partner who can maintain composure rather than resort to blame or criticism. This approach not only fosters a healthier bond but also encourages commitment and shared values—critical components for long-term success in relationships.

Ultimately, while owning a car might signal financial success to some, true compatibility and satisfaction in relationships lie deeper than material possessions. In a world that often idolizes wealth, perhaps it’s time to reassess what truly matters in a romantic partner.