Have you ever found yourself in a packed Trader Joe's, thinking, “I wish there were fewer dogs around”? Balancing between shopping carts and trying to grab that elusive bargain on vanilla extract, only to be thwarted by an exuberant puppy and its oblivious owner? This chaotic dance has become all too familiar for many urban dwellers who yearn for a quick shopping experience without dodging a parade of pooches. Instead of a straightforward trip to the store, navigating these dog-filled aisles can feel like an epic game of “Dogger,” where city folks must constantly watch their step to avoid the wrath of the privileged dog parent brigade.

Exploration of Ownership

Enter “The Friend,” a movie that deftly speaks to this very phenomenon while offering a crucial lesson for both existing and potential dog owners. Directed and written by Scott McGehee and David Siegel, the film sheds light on the trend of dog owners bringing their pets everywhere—regardless of whether anyone else appreciates their furry companions.

Based on Sigrid Nunez's best-selling novel from 2018, the story focuses on Iris (played by Naomi Watts), a writer reeling from the loss of her mentor and best friend, Walter (Bill Murray). Walter’s passing leaves her with his massive Great Dane, Apollo, leading to a slew of unforeseen challenges in her cramped New York City apartment. Not only does she struggle with her grief, but her building has a strict no-dog policy, adding another layer of stress to her already tumultuous life.

As Iris grapples with her emotional load and the logistics of dog ownership, she transitions into a role reminiscent of what she once criticized in other dog owners. The film cleverly explores the balance between being a responsible pet owner and becoming someone who imposes their choices on others. In a society where it’s becoming increasingly common to treat dogs as accessories or status symbols, “The Friend” humorously portrays the transformation that many new dog owners undergo—or fail to.

Personal Reflections

Reflecting on my experience as a former dog walker and front desk staff in a Manhattan dog training facility, I can relate to Iris’s plight. During my time, the contrast was stark between owners dedicated to providing a nurturing environment for their pets and those who saw dogs as mere props for their lifestyle. Many owners would neglect the rules instituted for the well-being of all involved, insisting on special treatment because they were paying clients. This kind of self-centered attitude not only can elevate one’s social media presence but often disregards the common courtesies owed to fellow citizens.

“The Friend” captures the darkly comedic moments of such interactions, showcasing the absurdities when good intentions collide with poor planning. As Iris tries to manage her overwhelming grief and a dog as large as a small car, she finds herself at odds with her building’s management and their rigid rules—yet these bureaucratic hurdles illuminate deeper issues about human connection and societal responsibility.

Responsibilities of Pet Ownership

What I hope to leave you with is this: owning a dog is a privilege that comes with responsibilities, both to the animal and to society at large. It’s not merely about having your Instagram feed filled with adorable pictures or showing off the newest designer dog accessories. Instead, it’s about integrating this living creature into your life in a way that respects others around you. “The Friend” shines a light on this essential lesson, urging viewers to reflect on their actions.

The emotional arc that Iris experiences alongside Apollo demonstrates that grief can foster a bond that transcends mere companionship. As she navigates her new reality, Iris realizes that her connection to Walter and Apollo grows stronger with each passing challenge, reminding us all that our pets can be vehicles for our healing—if we allow ourselves the space to embrace that journey.

Conclusion

Ultimately, “The Friend” is not just a film about a woman and her dog, but a thoughtful examination of the societal norms surrounding pet ownership, urging us to be mindful of the invisible lines between caring for our pets and imposing our choices on others. As we laugh at Iris’s misadventures, perhaps we can also learn to keep our dogs out of grocery aisles and open our hearts to the collective responsibility of dog ownership.